People who plan their holidays all year round are in total anxiety

For some, planning travel is a nightmare. So they wait until the last minute, even if it means paying too much or not leaving, but they wouldn’t change it for the world. Testimonials and opinions of experts.

Humanity is divided into two categories: on the one hand those who book your holiday in advance and those who do it at the last minute. The thought crosses 40-year-old Gil’s mind every time colleagues discuss their travel plans for this summer. “But how can you plan everything so far in advance? he asks her every time. The IT developer, father of two, had planned to take a day off in May, “but I don’t know where we’ll go yet, I’ll see“, he says. On his last trip to Ivory Coast the 40-year-old booked so late that he had to pay in multiple installments.

Marion, 33, a radio director of an NGO in Erbil, Iraq, also prefers these last-minute adventures. “With Bayram, my partner, we are thinking of going there Türkiye in two days, but we haven’t booked anything, we still don’t know if we will take the bus or the plane“, he confides. For her, price alerts, hotel reservations months in advance and “people who plan their holidays all year round, it’s total anxiety”. «I prefer to let myself be carried away by the wave» confirms Bayram, 41 years old, an English teacher.

Operative mode

For these people, the nightmare is those friends who send out invitations for group weekends or weddings a year in advance. “I feel like I have a knife at my throat» assures Marion. So the young girl always decides too late. “I often miss a holiday with friends because when I confirm there are often no more seats or the tickets are too expensive.» he confides. Despite the cost and sometimes risk of not leaving, neither Marion nor Gil want to do otherwise. “I can’t know what I’ll want in a month, so I’m waiting.”, he assures. According to them, if we freeze too early, we close ourselves off to life’s many proposals and surprises. Waiting allows them, in their opinion, to have more choices and to take the right one when the time comes. “I don’t know if in the meantime I won’t have other wishes or other proposals so I won’t commit or only very late» specifies Gil.

For some people, taking action creates doubt and involves making difficult choices. Some will even imagine a thousand scenarios. These numerous projections prevent them from taking action

Florence Servan Schreiber

Why say yes to a weekend in Arcachon in May when it’s only January? Who knows what the next few months will bring? Although we talk about choice, according to the speaker specializing in humanistic psychology, Florence Servan Schreiber, this relationship with the organization is an operational modality. “They can’t do otherwise, comment. For some people, taking action breeds doubt and involves making difficult choices. Some will even imagine a thousand possible scenarios and sequences of actions, telling themselves “if I do this, I can’t do that, etc.” These numerous projections prevent them from taking action.»

Cultural and family heritage

The psychoanalyst Pascal Anger sees in this relationship with time a way of “live in the present and be spontaneous. It is also a behavior which can be influenced by the family environment“. Marion had the “taste for adventure» with this mother who throws open the doors of travel agencies to ask for a trip for the next day. “Since then, for me the unexpected is always good while the expected can be a source of disappointment.“, points out. That’s why when Marion sees her colleague print out a very detailed document of her upcoming trip to Istanbul with the times of every activity, meal and transportation, she is stunned. “I wonder what he will do if he misses the ferry, he will postpone the whole plang”, he says. THE coach and psychologist Boris Charpentier sees in this lack of planning”the ability to more easily manage unexpected events and adapt to current conditions».

At the school where he teaches in Erbil, Bayram is also surprised at his colleagues who pay for tickets in April to leave as soon as classes finish. “I don’t know if I’ll be ready, if there are no problems I’d prefer to wait until Monday or Tuesday“, he explains. A Turkish Kurd living in Iraq, spontaneity for him is above all a fear of the future inherited from the regional instability in which he grew up. “I come from a country where attacks, coups d’état, murders occur. I’ve always been told that we don’t know what tomorrow will bring, so my family never planned anything ahead of time. ensures. Marriage to Marion was the only pre-planned event in her life. “And that day there was a coup attempt in Türkiye, we had to cancel everything“he blurted out.

After these Turkish weddings, Marion tells herself that you should never plan anything. It was also following an accident that Eva, 30, an editorial project manager, stopped planning her trips. For her partner’s thirtieth birthday, the young woman had booked a trip to Iceland three months before her departure. There, a storm ruined all her plans. “We were stuck in a village with only one hotel available and moved on as soon as the roads opened.. The gift failed and I lost a lot of money“, he confides. We won’t take him again. Since then, to those who ask her for advice on a winter trip to Iceland, Eva recommends “above all, don’t book anything in advance !».

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